Many times women complain about having a big dip in their relationships. Everything seems fine, you’re enjoying each other and then all of the sudden, he disconnected. He disappeared and probably never came back.
Let’s get things straight here—if a guy is truly in love with you and is madly into you, then none of the things here are necessary to look at, because he will not walk away from you easily—never. If the relationship ends for a man like that, he will actually be hurt deeply and it will be harder for him to move on than for the woman.
So if a guy did pull away from you suddenly and without explanation, then he really wasn’t that into you in the first place. This is the most important and key fact on this topic. You might be spending days and day wondering why he left so suddenly and besides his lack of love for you these are the most common reasons:
1. You’re not what he was looking for
Most of the men are looking for a challenge, for a prize to win. If he starts realizing you’re not a prize worthy of his efforts, he will back off. Maybe he is looking for a cool girl or a girl that is shy and cute. Maybe he is looking for the chemistry between a couple and if you’re insufficient for his demands, he will go away.
Even if he just started developing feelings for you, it will be easy for him to walk away because he realized you’re just not his type, not what he’s looking for. Keep in mind that it has nothing to do with you. You are unique and beautiful in your own way, so don’t bother with people who don’t like you—not everyone has good taste.
2. You’re doing something that pulls him away
This is probably the most common reason. Maybe you’re doing something that freaks him out. Men get scared when they feel dominated by a woman. If a woman appears too strong and independent, a man gets scared and pulls away. Men have that protective nature, and they love when you feel safe and protected around them, so seeing that you’re totally fine on your own and that you don’t need him to protect you can scare him off.
The second thing could be that you’re putting too much pressure on him. If he is getting calls and texts while he is working and you’re complaining about him not picking up the call or not replying, it will be a huge red flag for him.
Also, he can feel pressure when you’re rushing into things. You want him to commit too fast, to secure him, but he doesn’t feel that way. He didn’t invest enough in you to actually be ready for something like that. A relationship should be built on attraction, without any rush. With constant attraction, he will slowly start liking you more, start missing you more, and ultimately start getting ready to be truly yours.
The third thing is the opposite—he is not getting enough. When he sends you a text and you don’t reply the way he expected, he will think that you’re too cold. When you’re out with your friends you didn’t text him or did that just when you came back home. Even though you did nothing wrong and he knows that, still, the lack of communication and dedication to him can make him just give up.
3. He is told not to cry
From their childhoods, men are told not to cry, not to show certain emotions because “it’s not manly”. He has some feelings for you and that scares him. He is in pain, but he has been taught that if he shows that pain, it is proof that he isn’t “man” enough. He left because he is scared to show weaknesses, to show vulnerability and in order to “man up”, he has to walk away from you.