There’s this wonderful girl that you are trying to impress. She’s cute, elegant, but shy. Her shyness attracts you even more because she’s never the center of attention, she keeps herself low-key and you find her interesting because of how mysterious she is.
You love the way she puts her hair behind her ear and the way she looks away every time your eyes meet. She’s always somewhere in the corner of the room when there’s a party going on, but she’s also very smart, feminine and you simply know that there’s more to her than just her shyness. You fell in love with how she doesn’t talk much, but when she speaks, she makes everyone shut up because she speaks the truth and there’s always something interesting in her stories.
How to tell if a shy girls likes you?
Well, I am shy myself and I can tell you that the signs we find to be obvious are nothing but usual behavior to you. We send so many signals to the men we like, but they simply doesn’t get across the way we think they will. The signals we send you can make you even more confused than you were before, but we simply don’t know what else to do.
Sometimes it’s not even that hard to understand us, but you’re always surrounded with loud and confident women that we seem to be a mystery. But we’re not. We make it clear that we like you through our body language and those little signs that everyone simply ignores. I will never approach you first and I won’t ever tell you directly that I like you, but I will do my best to let you know that I’m interested in you.
1. She smiles around you
When a woman smiles, it’s more attractive and she knows that. Also, looking at you makes her happy. So the next time you go up to her and try to start a conversation and she smiles, know that she’s interested in you – a lot. Whenever you’re in a group and when you talk, she’ll look at you with a smile on her face—she won’t even know that she’s doing it. It makes her happy to see you and it’s not a mystery that women smile when they see something they like.
2. She laughs at your jokes
Even if it’s just a giggle, laughing at every joke you make, no matter how cheesy it is, is a clear sign that a woman likes you. For a shy girl who holds so much inside her, when you tell a joke, it’s the perfect time for her to let it out—even if it’s just in the way of a giggle. She wants to make sure you know that she appreciates you and that she finds you interesting.
3. You catch her looking at you
Whenever you like someone, you try to look at them as often as possible. You simply love to remember every move, every time they smile or every time they look at you. But with a shy girl it’s a bit different because she’ll look at you every time she thinks that you’re not looking. If your eyes do meet, she will, most probably, look away, trying to avoid your stare and she’ll look at the ground. To be honest, this is the right moment to approach her. She’ll be a bit lost, but it’ll be cute—especially because this way you’ll know for sure.
4. She blushes a lot
Whenever you go to talk to her, she blushes. Sometimes it’s not even that obvious, it just looks like she has rosy cheeks naturally. How do you know that she’s really blushing? Look at her when she doesn’t know you’re around and pay attention to her cheeks. Are they rosy now? If not, then come up to her and see what happens. If she blushes, you know what’s up.
5. She touches you ‘accidentally’
This is probably just a small brush of the hand when she walks by you. She simply isn’t secure enough to come up to you and hug you or take your hand. That’s why it’s easier for her to touch you ‘accidentally’. She wants to touch you and know how your skin feels. When you’re talking in a group and she makes a move with her hand, touches you and apologizes, it’s cute and she’ll think that you don’t know what’s happening – but you’re ready now.
6. She doesn’t talk to you that much
You see her talking to every other guy but somehow she avoids talking to you. Don’t be insulted—it’s just that she’s too afraid she might say something wrong in front of you, so she thinks that it’s better to not say anything at all. Don’t take it personally but rather go up to her and start a conversation yourself. She stays away from you because she doesn’t know what to say, so make it easier for the both of you and go up to her.
7. She plays with her hair a lot
Playing with her hair or clothes is a clear indicator that she’s nervous. If you notice that she’s going through her hair with her fingers or that she’s adjusting her clothes, she’s trying to make herself look prettier and make sure that everything is in its place. Also, she might just look down at herself to see how she looks and to make sure that everything is OK. My friend, she likes you a lot.
8. She starts dressing nicer
Well, she always looked gorgeous, but for the last few days, she dresses nicer and her clothes seem to compliment her body more and more each day. If you have noticed that she really does wear something that makes her look even more wonderful than she was before just right after you actually started to talk to her, then it’s a clear sign she likes you.
9. You run into her very often
It’s not creepy, let me just tell you this. She just wants to be around you very often. If you start seeing her in places where you go almost every day, but you haven’t seen her there before, then it’s a clear sign she likes you. She’ll go to all the places you mentioned and she’ll go everywhere where she might bump into you.
10. She likes your posts
Every time you post something, she likes it. I mean, people like everything today on Facebook and other social media, but just watch if she likes every post you make. Every song you share, every new profile picture, every new status you make (even if it’s about something stupid). If she likes all your posts, she obviously likes you, too.
11. She starts to hang out with your friends
Somehow she becomes part of your group of friends. She might even become very close with them. She doesn’t talk much and she doesn’t call them too often, but she somehow always there. Why does she do this? Obviously, she wants to be around you more and she wants to become close to you and your friends, so she can know what you love to do and how you behave with people.
12. Her friends giggle when you walk by
When you walk by her and her friends, you can hear them giggling. It might be uncomfortable, but it’s a clear sign she likes you. She won’t tell everyone that she’s interested in you. The only people with whom she would talk about it are her close friends because she knows that they won’t tell you anything and embarrass her. But giggling while thinking that you don’t know why is acceptable.
13. She might start to wear makeup
To you, it might be completely unnecessary, but to her, it’s something very important because it helps to boost her confidence. Makeup makes every woman look more fierce and she uses it to her own advantage. Of course, not every shy girl will do it. Some always wear makeup. Others feel confident enough to walk around without it. It depends on the girl. But if she didn’t wear it until you came into her life, then there’s a good chance it’s because she likes you.
14. She asks to help you
It’s probably something small like your homework or to pick you up if you don’t have a car. But those things are very meaningful. Women are known to pay attention to the little things while men don’t pay attention to them at all. We love to be useful to you because that makes us feel special. You chose us and it’s the biggest sign of appreciation you can give us. But don’t be fooled, we know the line between being helpful and being taken advantage of.
15. Texting doesn’t stop
Because of the fact that she’s too shy to talk to you in person, she turns to texting. You can’t see her blushing or screaming into the pillow when you text back, so it’s much easier for her to show you that she’s interested. Pay attention if the texts intensify and then just stop because she’s trying to see if you’ll start a conversation when she stops texting. She likes you very much and she doesn’t want to be a burden, so show her you’re interested, too, and text her first.
16. Suddenly she’s much more interested in your passions
When you tell her about your favorite bands, she comes up to you the next day telling you that she listened to every album and she saw all of their concerts on Youtube. Well, isn’t it obvious? Let me guess—you told her that you like football and the next day you saw her at a game. I don’t think that there’s anything left to say. She likes you—she likes you a lot.
17. She teases you
This happens when she gets comfortable around you. She starts to tease you. You know when you were kids and you liked a girl so much that you teased her? Well, it might seem very childish, but she simply doesn’t know how to communicate better, so she turns to teasing. She doesn’t want to insult you, of course, but she might get carried away. Don’t get mad.
18. She gives you little compliments
When you get a chance to ask a woman about flirting, she will most probably tell you that women love to compliment men in a subtle way. Why? Well it’s because we know that you love to be complimented and also it makes you see that we notice the little things. The shy girl you like will never compliment something obvious, like your muscles, but rather tell you how she likes the spark in your eyes when you smile. It’s something small but still something meaningful.
19. Leaning towards you
This is a subtle sign that she does involuntarily. When we like someone, we lean towards them. Not just women but men, too. That’s why it’s very important to look at her body language while she’s talking to you. Are you sitting on opposite sides of the table? Is she leaning in towards you? If she is, there is a high chance that she likes you.
20. Feet pointing at you
This is again trusting the science of body language. There are people who have devoted their lives to learn how to read the body language of others. They have found out that we lean our feet towards people we like. If you are sitting at a table with a group of people and even if she is looking away from you, you can look at her feet and see if they’re pointing towards you.
21. Strong connection
Because she doesn’t talk much, when she does speak with you, it’s probably about some deep topic that you wouldn’t have talked about with anyone else. Shy girls hate small-talk—they want to make every word count. That’s why when you come to talk to her, be prepared to have your mind blown to new horizons. Believe me if she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t bother talking to you. Just look how she acts around men that bother her. She’s closed up. She avoids eye contact and she doesn’t even want to talk after saying, ‘Hi!’ But with you, it’s kind of different, isn’t it?
22. She avoids flirting
It’s cute but bothersome, right? You keep on flirting with her but she clams up and there’s no way she can relax. It looks like she doesn’t like it. But, if she didn’t like your flirting, she would probably say some sarcastic comment to make sure you know your place. Because of the fact that she’s into you, she simply doesn’t know what to say back without making it sound awkward.
HOW ABOUT YOU ASK HER IF SHE LIKES YOU?
Why would you, right? It’s easier to search on the Internet for signs rather than asking her directly. It’s much easier to guess her feelings than to ask her about them. But maybe you are up for the challenge. So go ahead.
You see that she’s too shy and that she doesn’t know how to approach you properly. That’s why you need to take the initiative. Are you a man or not? Go ahead. Ask her out. Ask her about her favorite songs and ask her about her feelings.
She is shy, but she knows what she wants in life. She wants you.
It might look weird. She’s probably playing with her hair and awkwardly talking about it, but she’ll still tell you. She will tell you how long she’s been into you and the first time you looked at her. You will find out why and how much she likes you. There’s nothing bad that can happen.
What if she doesn’t like you? At least you know what’s going on. But if you’re afraid that she will reject you, here some undeniable signs a shy girl DOESN’T like you. Simply to make sure that you can freely go up to her and talk about it.
She makes excuses for everything
Whenever you’re trying to talk to her she runs away. The difference here is that if a shy girl does like you, she’ll keep on talking to you no matter how uncomfortable she might feel. But if she doesn’t, she’ll just walk away with some stupid excuse. It’s the same thing if you call her to go out with you. She isn’t avoiding you because she’s shy. She’s avoiding you because she doesn’t want to be around you. People get these signs mixed up, but believe me, as a shy girl, I know what I’m talking about.
She seems distracted
The thing with cute, shy girls is that they love when you talk about topics that you’re passionate about. But if she seems bored and distracted, then just stop. She’s not into you. If you need to repeat something too many times, she probably doesn’t want to hear what you’re saying. Also, one common sign that someone isn’t interested in you is if they keep on scrolling their phone. You do it, too. When you talk with someone you don’t like, you love your phone even more because it saves you from the boredom. You text, scroll and completely avoid the conversation. If she does this when you’re around – she’s not interested.
It’s never you two alone
If she avoids being alone with you, it’s not because she’s too shy to talk to you. Even a shy girl loves to have a bit of quality time with her crush. It’s when she can relax without the pressure of other people. But if she simply doesn’t want to be around you when you two are alone, I think it’s very simple to guess what’s going on. Move on without her.
She introduces you as a friend
The huge sign of FRIENDZONED. She might be cute and shy, she might not even know that you’re interested in her, but the ‘This is my friend..’ line isn’t pleasant for anyone to hear. If she introduces you as a friend, it means that she simply sees you as nothing else but a friend. Or is she playing mind-games?
She talks about her dream-man
If you get to the point where you’re talking about relationships and love and she starts talking about the man of her dreams, look for the signs that say you’re the one. You know that she doesn’t feel anything for you when she wants you to know that. It’s the little things that matter. If she says that her dream-man doesn’t smoke and you have a pack of cigarettes in your pocket, well my friend – just give up. Don’t try to change yourself for a woman. There will come a woman who will love you for who you are. If she doesn’t like you, it’s her choice. You can’t do anything about it.
She talks about other men
It’s not just her dream-man she is talking about? She talks about some friend of hers that she finds to be very attractive? Well, she doesn’t like you. When a woman likes you, especially a shy woman, it’s all about making you feel special. She wants to make you feel like you’re the only man for her. So why would she talk about other men in front of you unless she’s trying to make sure you see that there are much better men out there than you are?
She doesn’t accept your gifts
Women love to be spoiled. Of course some things like loyalty and appreciation are way more important than other gifts. But we still love when you give us flowers, when you take us out to dinner, etc. So why would we ever want to avoid receiving these kinds of gifts? Unless we don’t like you. She might be shy, but she knows that if she goes out with you or if she receives those flowers, it won’t stop, so she’ll kindly refuse to accept them. Sorry, but the sign is clear.
She doesn’t care about how she looks
Well, I know that there are a lot of women out there who simply don’t want to doll up to impress a man. But still, the majority of women loves to dress-up properly to impress the man they like—or at least to look presentable. If she’s constantly walking around in an oversized sweater whenever she’s with you and she never makes an effort to brush her hair, it’s not because she’s lazy. It’s a tactic designed to make her unattractive.
Still, why don’t you ask her?
She sends you all of these signals that are more confusing than not and you still keep on scrolling through random articles and overthinking her behaviour, when you could just ask her.
The next time you see her, go ahead. What’s the worst that can happen? She rejects you? Don’t be silly. It’s not the end of the world.
I love it when someone says that communication is the key, so I continue saying it to everyone as well. Communication really does solve all the problems in this world. Believe me, even if she is shy and if she doesn’t talk much, when you ask her these questions that require an honest answer and her own opinion, then she will talk to you about it gladly.
If she rejects you, just move one. You will find someone who will love you for who you are. Just don’t keep on walking around her, trying to make her like you. I know that she seems insecure, but she’s not. She knows what she wants and if it’s not you, then there’s nothing you can do to change that. It’s better for you to continue on without her than to keep on searching for the signs a shy girl likes you.
But if you’re still convinced she’s into you, here is a quick overview of everything you need to do in order to see if she really does like you:
Watch her body language. People spend their whole lives learning about this and they have turned it into art, so don’t take it for granted. Be prepared for the most random things to read out of her body language. But keep an open mind while doing so.
Don’t be in denial. If you are aware of the signs she doesn’t like you and you still continue on flirting with her, it will just make it worse. It will make her feel uncomfortable and it will also make you look like a fool.
Talk. Communicate. Initiate a conversation.
Shy girls are the cutest of them all, but never underestimate them. They are fierce, strong and independent women who love themselves and who have the ability to see right through your games. Don’t play with her, but be honest and she will love you even more.