I know that you feel broken now but you should know that it won’t last forever. Your brokenness doesn’t define you, so don’t think that you are not valuable just the way you are. Remember that you are someone’s blessing, so stop accusing yourself for the bad things that have happened to you. Deep down, you know that you couldn’t affect them, but that doesn’t prevents you from guilting yourself for everything.
I just want to tell you that you shouldn’t be so harsh on yourself and that you should give yourself a break. Everything that happens to you is called ‘life’. Sometimes it is good and sometimes it is bad, but that is not what matters the most. What matters is how you behave on your worst days and what you do to make yourself feel better because that is the most important thing that you could do for yourself. You need to pick yourself up and glue all the broken pieces back together.
You were whole once and you can be whole again. And don’t listen to people who say that you can’t be the old you because you can. Only this time, you will be stronger just because you were broken once. Just because your heart has been shattered, you will learn to love yourself more. And every time you fall, you will rise again because it is not shameful to fall but it is shameful not to make an effort to get up.
And I know what kind of a woman you are. I know that you are a warrior and that you will never give up, no matter how many slaps life gives you. I know that it hurts you to see others reaching out their hands to help you because you don’t love that, but you should be happy for having people like that in your life. It is a blessing to have friends who won’t mock you while you are crawling in front of them.
It is so nice to feel that others respect you and that you actually matter to them. It feels good to be someone’s priority because those friends are friends without interests. They love you just the way you are, broken or whole. They know that we are all a little bit broken, but that it doesn’t define us. Once you get broken, you can make yourself whole again, but once you give up on yourself, you won’t get anything.
So, my dear, the way you feel right now is familiar to me because I felt that way so many times. I was broken into pieces so small that I couldn’t believe that I will be the old me again. But look at me now. Here I am, living my life to the fullest and being happy. And I know that you can do the same. If you really, really want something, you can achieve it because giving up on your life just because of a couple bumps in the road is meaningless, right? I know that you can do better than that. You have to do better than that.
And the pain?
The pain will always be there—sometimes for your loved one and sometimes for your friends or family, but you need to learn to live with it. Pain is what makes us stronger and if it weren’t for pain, you wouldn’t know what you are capable of. So, every time you feel down, just remember how many reasons you have to keep your head up. You are someone’s best friend, sister, mother or cousin.
There are people who admire you even if you don’t know that. There are people who want to be just like you, but they would never say that out loud. And most of all, there are people who love you without limits. So, don’t think that you are not worthy or that you are not enough just because life gave you some bad cards. The purpose of life isn’t all about getting the good cards but playing well with the bad ones.
So don’t think that you are weak because the best part of you lies under the surface. It is all in you and it just waits for you to finally start believing in yourself, so all of that could rise to the surface. And once you let it rise and when you see what you are capable of, you will finally see that you can do better than sitting in your room and blaming the bad destiny for not giving you the chances you deserved. You can do so much more and please don’t ever forget that.
I know life will sometimes pull you down and people will betray you, but in all that mess, don’t lose yourself. Don’t lose what makes you so unique and special. Always have faith in yourself.
Because you are not weak, you were just being too strong for too long.