A breakup is always a painful and taxing process to get through, regardless of the circumstances. But it may be a little easier to survive (and certainly much less of a blow) if the person on the receiving end know that it’s coming. When a person knows that a relationship is over before anybody officially calls it, they give themselves more time to get used to it.
It doesn’t take a psychic to know when a relationship is about to end. Often, at least one of the people in the relationship starts displaying a few signs, even if they don’t realize that they’re doing it. The best anyone can do in order to protect themselves from the harsh surprise of a prematurely ended relationship is learning to look for and interpret those signs. Being able to piece together that the love is gone will still hurt, but it will feel less like falling on one’s face.
So what kind of things does someone do when a relationship is over? The signs can be as subtle as skipping date night, and as obvious as frequent attacking and fight-picking. Keep reading to find out what 25 things he might do that suggest a relationship is as good as over.
25He Barely Looks At Her Anymore
It’s never a good sign when one person in a relationship stops making eye contact with the other.
The honeymoon stage where two people are practically obsessed with each other obviously doesn’t last forever.
But even after it’s over, they should still stay connected in that way, at least some of the time. It could suggest that the relationship is on its last legs if he seems to never want to look into your eyes and, half the time, acts as if you’re not even there.
24He Always Seems Distracted
A boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t have to take over someone’s whole world, but they should remain one of the highest priorities. Sometimes things happen and work might be more important for a while, or family might be taking up a lot of time, but overall, a person’s relationship should be one of the most important things to them. They shouldn’t seem distracted all the time. You’ll know if he is distracted because a list of other things in his life will come before you.
23He’s Always In A Bad Mood
If he’s always in a bad mood, it’s not a good sign. This is especially true if his bad mood seems to specifically relate to when he sees you.
Some people might be grumpier than others in general, and everyone has days when they feel frustrated or sad.
But at the same time, it shouldn’t be a constant thing that you notice every time you see him. Being with Oscar the Grouch is a sign that he’s not happy in the relationship.
22He No Longer Mentions The Future
Talking of the future shows that two people are in a relationship that’s going to last. When they never talk about the future at all, it could be a sign that they’re not thinking of a future because the relationship is barely lasting in the present. Of course, if you’ve just started dating, this doesn’t apply. But if you’ve been together for a while, and he used to talk about the future but has now stopped, there could be a problem.
21He Doesn’t Share His Good News (Or Bad News) With Her
Two people in love usually feel inclined to share almost everything about their lives with each other.
They might keep some things private, but usually, there’s a flow of ongoing communication between them, into which they both contribute things that are going on in their day-to-day lives.
It may be a sign that the relationship isn’t working if he stops sharing things with you. This is especially true if he’s still sharing them with others, and you’re the last to know.
20He No Longer Wants To Be Affectionate
Every relationship is different when it comes to physical affection. Some relationships revolve around it, while others include it as a sweet addition. But when he wants to stop the affection altogether, you may have a problem on your hands. Couples go through dry spells and a decrease in alone time together isn’t necessarily something to panic about. It’s just something that may be worth noticing, especially when it happens in conjunction with the other behaviors on this list.
19It Seems Like He’s Always Absent Or Missing
It may be a sign that the relationship could be coming to an end if he’s never there anymore.
He might say he’s been busy at work or with family, or feeling tired and no longer makes an appearance at events, whether you’re there or not.
It could also be the case that he is never around when you need him, and isn’t even available to talk to on the phone. Of course, long-distance relationships aren’t included in this one.Featured Today
18He’s Always Blatantly Flirting With Others
Different people have different opinions on flirting while in a relationship. Some people are fine with their partner innocently flirting with others, while others have a problem with it. But either way, it isn’t a promising sign if your partner is always, always flirting with other people. It’s even worse if he doesn’t care whether you notice (or care) or not. And it’s even worse than that if he flirts with others while refusing to be affectionate or intimate with you.
17He Always Picks An Argument
Frequently picking fights and arguments could be a sign that a guy is done with you and your relationship, even if he doesn’t know it yet.
It’s usual and healthy for couples to argue sometimes and to go through periods with more fighting than others.
But the majority of your time together shouldn’t be spent fighting. When he’s always the one to pick arguments, it could be his way of unleashing built-up resentment or subconsciously trying to build a rift between you.
16And When There’s No Argument, He’s Super Defensive Anyway
People who act defensively are often touchy, highly-strung, and easy to upset. This is also a sign of stress, so you don’t have to panic! But a guy could be acting like this because he’s generally unhappy with the state of his relationship. Everyone has off days, but if he’s being defensive all the time, it could be because, inside at least, he knows something’s wrong. This is all the more true if he’s especially defensive when asked about your relationship.
15At The Other Extreme, He’s Super Agreeable All The Time
It’s not a good sign if there’s too much fighting in the relationship, but as we said, a little arguing is normal and healthy.
When there’s no fighting at all, it could be just as bad a sign as if there is a lot of fighting.
Why? If he argues with you every now and then, it suggests that he cares. When he confronts you about things that are bothering him, it’s because he wants to improve the situation and cares about the outcome of the relationship.
14He Blames Her For Every Little Thing
There are two sides to every story, and it’s highly unlikely that only one person in the relationship is going to be responsible for all of the bad things that go on. Sure, one person might be more at fault than the other, but it’s likely that there’s a problem if you have a person who blames you for every little thing—even the things that are blatantly out of your control, or his fault. This suggests that he’s harboring some anger and resentment toward you.
13He’s Starting To Pull Back His Time And Effort
When someone slowly starts to distance themselves from their partner and their relationship, it’s usually a very careful and calculated way to end things.
Rather than slamming you with a breakup out of the blue, distancing himself allows him to send you subtle clues that he’s not happy.
It also makes it easier to adapt once you are no longer together. There are other reasons why he might be easing up on the time and effort he puts in, but this could be one of them.
12Or He Full-On Ghosts Her
Sometimes people will take it further than just subtly distancing themselves and will fully ghost you. In other words, they will just disappear rather than having to actually break up with you. While a break up may be painful, at least you know exactly where you stand and you gain closure. Someone could disappear for any reason, and you never really know unless you do some serious investigating. But the chances are he’s no longer interested in a relationship.
11He’s No Longer Interested In Date Night
Most couples have a designated date night which allows them to step away from their busy schedules and dedicate one night, whether it’s per week or per month, to being with each other.
Some couples use this to spice things up while others just enjoy each other’s company again.
Even if you don’t have a designated date night, he should still be interested in spending time with you alone. It doesn’t have to be all his time—just enough to show he still cares.
10Instead, He Insists On Group Dates Or Double Dates
Group and double dates can be a lot of fun. That said, they shouldn’t replace all of your single dates. A couple should be alone at least some of the time, so they can talk about things they share with nobody else, be relaxed, and bond. When he always insists on doing group activities or going on double dates, it could be a sign that he is avoiding spending time with you alone, which is pretty much never a good sign.
9He Often Talks About Their Differences
It’s not necessarily a bad sign if a couple has a lot of differences between them. Those variations keep the relationship exciting. Plus, problems may arise if you end up dating someone who’s essentially a clone of you.
At the same time, though, it could be a bad sign if he’s always highlighting the differences between you.
This could mean nothing, but it could also be his way of trying to show you that you’re not well suited to each other.
8It Feels Like He Never Laughs With Her Anymore
Laughter may not seem like an important part of a relationship, but it is. Couples who make each other laugh are generally happier with each other and enjoy each other’s company more. It doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed if there’s been a decrease in laughter and joking, but it is something to think about, especially if you used to laugh together all the time. Life doesn’t have to be a big joke, but a happy couple enjoys it together.
7He Makes Passive-Aggressive Comments
Sometimes a guy might not be big on the whole direct conflict thing, but he still might act in an overly passive-aggressive way around you. It’s usually easy to pick up on this kind of behavior.
Usually, he’ll respond to genuine questions and comments with sarcasm and find a way to be offended about the smallest things you say.
And if he is always acting threatened or snarky with you, there is a chance that his heart is no longer in the relationship.
6He Refuses To Accept Favors
Refusing to accept gifts and favors from you might be a sign that the relationship is over for him. He could find it difficult to accept these things from you knowing that he’s going to break it off in the near future. But at the same time, he could just be acting polite. On the other end of the scale, there are people who try to squeeze all the perks they can out of the person they’re seeing before they dump them.
5He’s Mentioned (Subtly) That He Feels Like It’s Over
It’s always a good idea to pay attention to what your partner says, even when they’re joking. Remember that there’s often a little truth in humor!
Joking that your relationship is falling apart, or even saying that he feels like it’s over in an exaggerated way, could be a sign that he really does feel like it’s over.
This could be him testing your reaction to the idea, or simply venting the feelings he’s been trying to hide from you.
4He Doesn’t Ask About Her Day
Asking about someone’s day is so common that you’ve probably never thought twice about what it means. While this is just a polite thing to ask, it also shows that you genuinely care about the other person and what’s going on in their life. Over time, couples can forget about these little courtesies and it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is finished. But it’s not a great sign if he never asks how your day was, or what’s going on with you.
3He’s Reluctant To Give Her Plus One Invites
Breakups are tough because often, there’s more than just two people involved. Letting your family and friends know that you and your ex are over can sometimes be one of the hardest parts.
If he feels like it’s coming to an end, he might stop inviting you to events where you’ll have to mingle with his friends and family.
This is a way of slowly getting the people in his life used to the idea that he’s no longer with you.
2And He Never Brings Her To See His Family And Friends Anymore
Not only can you stop receiving invites to his events when he feels like the relationship is over, but he might stop you from seeing his family and friends altogether. This includes double dates or simple visits without a formal occasion. If you used to randomly drop in on his parents, he might tell you to stop doing that. Distancing you from the people in his life is part of the overall process of nudging you out of his life completely.
1He’s Giving Her A Gut Feeling That His Feelings Have Changed
Gut feelings can be a lot more powerful than you think! If his general behavior and demeanor give you the feeling that it’s over, there’s a good chance that the relationship really is over.
It’s possible to get a little paranoid and second-guess everything he does, but your intuition is usually right with this kind of thing.
If you really pay attention, you’ll be able to tell when things have changed and the relationship is actually coming to an end.